When we think about a marriage on the rocks, or one that is perhaps nearing its final moments, we often paint a picture of frequent, rancorous disagreements and yelling between the two parties involved. It is easy to assume that these are the sounds of a failing and soon-to-be-terminated union, but this is not always the case. Some—perhaps more than some—marriages do not end with a bang, but more of a muffled sob, or sometimes, silence. In some cases, there is no actual legal divorce.
This phenomenon is often referred to as silent divorce, where a relationship never actually comes to an end, yet silently, the couple drifts apart over time after the bonds they once shared have faded away. They hardly spend time together, even in shared living quarters, and essentially lead separate lives. While this arrangement can be regarded as sad, even unhealthy, there are reasons for such a “divorce” to exist.
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Relationship Expectations. Expect the Unexpected.
In any relationship, especially marriage, managing expectations is crucial for achieving and maintaining overall success with your partner. Expectations are dynamic and play a significant role in our lives, defining who we are and shaping our relationships. These expectations come in various forms and magnitudes, influencing how we interact with our partners.
That said, it is not too bold of a statement to say many marriages fail due to our experience with these expectations, and how we react when those expectations are not met is of no less significance. Indeed, it feels great when our expectations are met, and that feeling of being gratified and reciprocated in life is what we have been looking for all along. However, living life by measuring relationships by our own expectations can be harmful, and how we manage these feelings and expectations will often be the determining factor of success or failure.