In Divorce Trials: Credibility Is King

Alan R. Feigenbaum

New York Law Journal, May 22, 2025 —

In my commercial litigation days, I recall marathon preparation sessions with witnesses before depositions. Often times, I heard far too much emphasis being placed on the “I don’t recall” answer, i.e., if your witness is faced with a challenging question, he or she can always default to “I don’t recall.”

Let me begin by saying that that is, unequivocally, terrible matrimonial legal “advice” which can—and does—lead to dismal consequences in divorce trials for those witnesses who believe that a knee-jerk “I don’t recall” answer will somehow persuade the finder of fact.

To be clear, if “I don’t recall” is the truthful answer, then it is the truthful answer. What it cannot be—unless one wants to see their divorce case go up in flames at trial—is a means to try to disguise the fact that one’s case-in-chief is lacking in facts.

Why am I making such a fuss over the credibility of a divorcing spouse’s testimony at trial? To answer that question, look no further than Justice Jeffery S. Sunshine’s recent decision in Khalil v. Mahmoud, 2025 NY Slip Op 50348(U) (Sup. Ct., Kings Cty. 2025).

In Khalil, the court granted a third-party intervenor’s application to declare that the intervenor had a 50 percent ownership interest in the two-family marital residence, where the intervenor entered into a joint venture agreement with the plaintiff-husband more than 20 years ago.

The defendant-wife argued that the intervenor had no ownership interest in the marital residence and was instead a mere tenant who paid rent; she further claimed that the husband was attempting to effectively remove 50 percent of the marital residence from the marital estate and therefore carve it out of equitable distribution.

The court heard testimony from the intervenor’s husband, the husband, a real estate attorney who prepared the joint venture agreement, a real estate agent who at one point rented out a portion of the marital residence at the request of the intervenor’s husband, the intervenor herself, the wife, and other witnesses.

In this article, I will focus on the wife’s testimony. She testified that she did not believe the joint venture agreement was legitimate because “there was a typo in the house number on one (1) page of the agreement.” However, on cross-examination, “she conceded that the house number is accurate in all other parts of the joint venture agreement.”

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In the News

Below is a roundup of Blank Rome Matrimonial and Family Law Partners’ recent awards, recognitions, media, and other accomplishments from around the country.

Divorce, Pensions, and Survivorship Benefits: A Deadly Combination
April 25, 2025 – Blank Rome partner Alan R. Feigenbaum authored this New York Law Journal article discussing concerns surrounding survivorship benefits in separation agreements.

Kristina Royce Joins the Chiquis and Chill Podcast
April 23, 2025 – Kristina Royce, Blank Rome partner and co-chair of the Matrimonial & Family Law group, joined host Chiquis Rivera on the Chiquis and Chill podcast to discuss important topics such as marriage, divorce, and prenuptial agreements.

Kristina Royce Named Top 100 Lawyer by the Los Angeles Business Journal
April 22, 2025 – Blank Rome partner Kristina Royce, co-chair of the firm’s Matrimonial & Family Law group, has been recognized in the Los Angeles Business Journal’s Top 100 Lawyers 2025.

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Attorney Spotlight: Dylan Mitchell—New York

Stacy D. Phillips ●

This edition of Attorney Spotlight highlights one of our valued New York City colleagues in Blank Rome’s Matrimonial & Family Law group: Dylan Mitchell.

Dylan S. Mitchell
Partner

Dylan has been practicing law for nearly 30 years and is a valued member of our Matrimonial & Family Law team. He is a trained and efficient mediator and has helped parents and families resolve disputes without the need for continued litigation on many occasions. As a lawyer, Dylan has never had a desire to represent anyone other than a human being. A lawyer is a problem solver. Practicing family law provides Dylan with the opportunity to work with clients facing human issues. Many of his clients feel that they are experiencing the worst points in their lives when going through a divorce. Dylan is there to help clients solve problems and ultimately assist them in moving forward to better things. This experience can be rewarding for both the client and legal counsel.

Lawyers working in family law often walk a line between providing the necessary legal services and managing the ever-present emotions surrounding family matters. When it comes to family matters and high emotions, to pardon a pun, it is rather rare to be able to divorce these two factors. They are inextricably intertwined. 

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The Silent Divorce. Understanding the Sounds Beneath the Quiet.

Stacy D. Phillips ●

When we think about a marriage on the rocks, or one that is perhaps nearing its final moments, we often paint a picture of frequent, rancorous disagreements and yelling between the two parties involved. It is easy to assume that these are the sounds of a failing and soon-to-be-terminated union, but this is not always the case. Some—perhaps more than some—marriages do not end with a bang, but more of a muffled sob, or sometimes, silence. In some cases, there is no actual legal divorce.

This phenomenon is often referred to as silent divorce, where a relationship never actually comes to an end, yet silently, the couple drifts apart over time after the bonds they once shared have faded away. They hardly spend time together, even in shared living quarters, and essentially lead separate lives. While this arrangement can be regarded as sad, even unhealthy, there are reasons for such a “divorce” to exist.

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Divorce, Pensions, and Survivorship Benefits: A Deadly Combination

Alan R. Feigenbaum 

New York Law Journal, April 25, 2025 —

Our artificial intelligence overlords tell us that in America we have a “death-denying culture.” Translation: generally speaking, death is a topic that is presumptively uncomfortable, swept under the rug, and not talked about in this country.

When you draft a separation agreement in a matrimonial matter, you had better sweep the “death-denying” milieu under the rug. Instead, it is critical that matrimonial lawyers who draft separation agreements confront how we are going to address the possibility that one spouse could die after an agreement is signed, but before all its provisions are implemented.

If you ever needed proof of how important it is to get comfortable with the possibility of death when drafting separation agreements, look no further than Justice Joseph H. Lorintz’s recent decision in A.F. v. D.F., 2025 NY Slip Op 50160(U) (Sup. Ct., Nassau Cty., 2025).

In A.F., the parties were married in 1990, and they have three emancipated children. A divorce action was commenced by the wife in 2010 and settled pursuant to a Marital Separation and Property Settlement Agreement (“agreement”) in 2010. The parties were divorced by Judgment in 2010.

The agreement directed the division of the Husband’s pension via a Qualified Domestic Relations Order (“QDRO”). A QDRO was signed simultaneously with the Judgment which directed that the wife (the “Alternate Payee”) would receive survivorship benefits in the event of the husband’s (the “Participant”) death.

In 2011, the New York City Employees’ Retirement System (NYSCERS) sent a letter advising the husband that the “DRO is unacceptable in its current format,” including that the numerator (number of months of retirement credit earned during the marriage) was incorrect.

In 2024—more than a decade after the letter from NYSCERS—the husband filed an Amended Domestic Relations Order that was identical to the 2010 QDRO “except for the deletion of the ordered paragraph directing the [husband] to select a survivorship option.”

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Badmouthing Spouses: Balancing Free Speech with Common Sense

Alan R. Feigenbaum ●

New York Law Journal, March 27, 2025 —

During a divorce one or both spouses may feel compelled to establish within their community of family and friends the “why,” i.e., each spouse’s explanation as to why the marriage broke down. This is particularly relevant in American culture which, regrettably, can be quick to judge when word gets out that a couple is going through a divorce.

How spouses go about explaining the “why” can take various forms. Some spouses have heart-to-heart, private conversations with their treating mental health professionals. Others, much to the chagrin of their divorce lawyers, may go nuclear and find comfort in a very public social media rant.

The question becomes whether or not spouses are faced with any limitations on speech when they choose—if they do—to discuss their divorce and/or the information they learn during their divorce with third parties.

That brings us to Justice Jeffrey S. Sunshine’s recent decision in T.I. v. R.I., 2025 NY Slip Op 50115(U) (Sup. Ct., Kings Cty. 2025). At the outset, I note that a large portion of the T.I. decision relates to the plaintiff-wife’s motion to disqualify the defendant-husband’s counsel from representing the husband because his counsel was subsequently retained by the husband’s brother in a malicious prosecution action against the wife.

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In the News

Below is a roundup of Blank Rome Matrimonial and Family Law partners’ recent awards, recognitions, media, and other accomplishments from around the country.

The Sky is the Limit. Top LA Attorney Stacy D. Phillips Gets Up Close and Personal on Her Lifestyle Podcast “Stacy Phillips & Friends”
February 6, 2025 – Blank Rome partner Stacy D. Phillips was featured in this Beverly Hills Times Magazine article discussing her newly launched podcast, “Stacy Phillips & Friends.”

Kristina Royce Joins The Wall Street Skinny Podcast
February 3, 2025 – Blank Rome partner Kristina Royce joined hosts Kristen Kelly and Jen Saarbach on The Wall Street Skinny podcast to discuss why individuals need to be well-informed about their legal rights and obligations, particularly concerning marriage and financial matters.

Child Custody: The Dangers of ‘Rules of Thumb’
January 30, 2025 – Blank Rome partner Dylan S. Mitchell authored this New York Law Journal article discussing the common principle regarding on acting on what is in the best interests of children.

5 Challenges with Changing Your Name That No One Tells You
January 28, 2025 – Blank Rome partner Ernestine J. Mings was featured in this The Knot article discussing the potential challenges when one has to change their legal name.

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Attorney Spotlight: Jacqueline Combs—Los Angeles

Stacy D. Phillips ●

For this edition of Attorney Spotlight, I am proud to feature one of my esteemed Los Angeles colleagues in Blank Rome’s Matrimonial & Family Law group: Jacqueline Combs.

Jacqueline Combs
Partner

A graduate of the University of California, Los Angeles, and the Chapman University School of Law, Jackie has proven to be an indispensable member of our firm’s Matrimonial & Family Law practice group. Formerly an associate at the firm, Jackie was recently elevated to partner at Blank Rome. I am thrilled that she has achieved this very distinctive honor. 

Having been practicing law for more than 12 years, Jackie began her legal career as a corporate counsel for private and publicly traded companies and worked with clients on high-stakes business and legal issues. Over time, she found she wanted more direct ways to help people through her practice, which led Jackie to pursue family law. Jackie has integrated her experience as corporate counsel into her family law practice. A successful lawyer must excel in negotiation, especially in family law cases. Jackie exemplifies this by consistently bringing her exceptional negotiation skills to every client and case she handles.

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Prenuptial Agreement Spousal Support Waivers: Proceed with Caution

Alan R. Feigenbaum

New York Law Journal, February 14, 2025 —

When you utter the words “prenuptial agreement” to a matrimonial lawyer, more often than not you might instantly feel a sense of dread in the air. Some matrimonial lawyers are so adverse to prenuptial agreements that they tell me “I won’t do them anymore”. Other matrimonial lawyers I talk to say that prenuptial agreements should be banned altogether. 

Alas, prenuptial agreements remain alive and well in New York, and so we, as matrimonial lawyers, must confront their ever-present complexities. 

With that in mind, we turn to the critically important decision of Justice Jeffrey S. Sunshine in J.M. v. G.V., 2025 NY Slip Op 25004 (Kings Cty., January 2, 2025). 

In J.M., the parties married in New York on May 23, 2018. One week prior, on May 16, 2018, the parties entered into a prenuptial agreement. The parties had one unemancipated child, born in September 2020. After the plaintiff-wife commenced an action for divorce, the defendant-husband moved for summary judgment to, inter alia, set aside the prenuptial agreement on the basis that the agreement “is unconscionable, fraudulent, and/or the result of overreaching”.

The husband was not represented by counsel during the negotiation and consummation of the prenuptial agreement. He asserted that the wife informed him that “if he wanted to marry her it was required by her family that he signed a prenuptial agreement.” According to the husband, when the prenuptial agreement was signed, the husband had a net worth of $27,000, and the wife had a net worth of over $455,000.

While the focus of this article will be spousal support waivers in prenuptial agreements, there are a multitude of important legal concepts that can be learned from reading the J.M. decision.

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Relationship Expectations. Expect the Unexpected.

Stacy D. Phillips ●

In any relationship, especially marriage, managing expectations is crucial for achieving and maintaining overall success with your partner. Expectations are dynamic and play a significant role in our lives, defining who we are and shaping our relationships. These expectations come in various forms and magnitudes, influencing how we interact with our partners.

That said, it is not too bold of a statement to say many marriages fail due to our experience with these expectations, and how we react when those expectations are not met is of no less significance. Indeed, it feels great when our expectations are met, and that feeling of being gratified and reciprocated in life is what we have been looking for all along. However, living life by measuring relationships by our own expectations can be harmful, and how we manage these feelings and expectations will often be the determining factor of success or failure.

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